Finding Balance: Being a Stay-at-Home Mom Who Also Wants to Work (Sometimes

 Let’s be real—motherhood is a whirlwind. One moment, you're soaking in the joy of being with your kids, and the next, you're dreaming of the quiet escape of working just a little to feel like yourself again. It's a constant balancing act between living in the moment and longing for a sliver of time where you can contribute to something beyond the walls of your home.

We all want to be present with our kids 24/7—after all, those precious moments pass by so quickly! But at the same time, there’s that inner tug, that voice whispering, “You want to contribute financially... and, hey, maybe do something just for you!” Oh, and let’s not forget the simple craving for a break now and then (a full cup of coffee without interruptions would be nice). 🌪️

Does this sound familiar? If you're nodding along, it's fine—really, we’re all fine! 🤣♥️

The Mom-Life Struggle is Real: But You’re Not Alone

Every stay-at-home mom feels this pull—wanting to be everything for their kids and yet, still longing for a piece of themselves back. You want to raise your kids hands-on, but you also want to work. You need a break, but you miss them even when you're away. It’s exhausting and confusing—and, let’s be honest, it can feel impossible to find that perfect balance.

But guess what? You're doing great.

The Beauty of Imperfection

Society often tells us we can “have it all.” But let’s be honest, having it all doesn’t mean doing it all, every day, or perfectly. Some days, you’ll thrive in your mom role, and other days, you’ll feel like your sanity is hanging by a thread. Maybe you’ll land a side hustle that lets you contribute financially—but that doesn’t mean you’re any less committed to being there for your kids.

Through all the chaos, there’s a gentle reminder that helps put everything in perspective: I remember how often I used to dream of having the life I have now, and I’ll never take that for granted. My kids, my spouse, my whole life.  I tell myself everyday I’m so incredibly lucky. 💗

It’s okay to want a career and to be at home with your children. It’s okay to want time for yourself but still feel guilty about it. Those feelings? Completely normal. You’re human, and motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint.

How to Find Your Balance

1.Set Your Own Pace: You don’t have to work a 9-to-5. In today’s world, remote and flexible work options make it possible to work on your terms. Whether it’s freelancing, consulting, or starting a small business, you can create your own schedule that fits around your life.

   

2. Time for You = Better for Everyone: Taking a break isn’t selfish; it’s self-preservation. Whether it’s an hour of watching your favorite show at night, a coffee with a friend, or an uninterrupted bubble bath, you time makes you a more patient and engaged mom.

3. Ask for Help: Don’t be afraid to lean on family, friends, or a sitter so you can carve out time for yourself—or even time to pursue your work. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and it's okay to admit you need help sometimes.

4. Embrace the Chaos: The truth is, it’s always going to be a little chaotic. The sooner we accept that, the sooner we can stop striving for perfection. Instead, focus on what feels right for you in the moment. 

It’s Fine. We Are All Fine.

At the end of the day, remember: You’re not alone in this whirlwind. It’s okay to want everything and still be unsure of how to fit it all together. You’ll figure it out as you go—day by day, piece by piece.

And sometimes, just laughing through the chaos with a "we’re all fine!" is enough to keep things in perspective. So, take a deep breath, grab that coffee (which hopefully you can enjoy without interruption), and remember: You’re doing amazing, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Speaking of coffee, if you need a boost, here’s where I get mine: Because honestly, a full cup of coffee can do wonders for your soul. ☕💪 Shop my coffee here

 A Reminder: Moms Aren’t “Cranky” for No Reason

A million times a day, moms complete tasks that go unnoticed. The planning, the worrying that only we feel, the relentless to-do list that never seems complete. All of that while battling with the non-stop noise, always being wanted and needed, the constant exhaustion.

The invisible load can be all-consuming, but a little appreciation can go such a long way. 

And sometimes, the best way to recharge is by doing something for yourself—whether it's sipping that coffee/wine in peace or pursuing that side gig that brings you fulfillment.

At the end of the day, we’re all fine. You’ve got this, mama. We’re in this boat together.💗✌️